medium & the message

I keep reading about these people, other bloggers, who get negative messages through their blogs. I’m not just talking about readers disagreeing with what they say but about receiving horrible, personal attacks from complete strangers.

Up until now I’ve been attack free. It may not have been as horrible as ones I’ve read but it came where I least expected it – a friend.

I got this message in my Facebook inbox:

“darlin’ i love you to bits… but why do you have a blog? really? it kinda breaks my heart”

WTF? Coming from someone who is a really good friend, we know each other outside of the online world, well, it kinda broke my heart. I guess “bloggers” aren’t really cool in this his eyes.

I feel sorry for him. He was the friend that chastised people for having cell phones but, of course, he got one when it suited him. He did the same for Facebook, for quitting smoking and for exercise. I know that he reads blogs and doesn’t even know it. If his past behavior is indicative of what’s to come, I’m sure he’ll catch up with the rest of us soon.

I always try to be supportive and encouraging especially with my friends. There are times that they are involved in something that I think is totally off the wall but if I see that they are happy then who cares? I am an opinionated bitch but if what you are doing isn’t causing you harm then who am I to make you feel bad about it? I would only expect the same from my friends. Thankfully, minus this one comment, all of my other friends have been supportive and engaged. I should consider myself really lucky.

I supposed you are wondering what I wrote back (besides this post). Here goes:

“you know, you look really fat when you are being judgmental.
ive been blogging for over a year and this is the first you’ve noticed? maybe you need to get with it.
and hi…welcome to my world. my whole career is based on social media. i got my super awesome job thru my blog and I love what I do.
perhaps it might be nicer if you would be supportive, even if you don’t agree with the things i do in MY life. you know…the way i would be with you.”

Not sure if I was being very nice but I think I got my point across.

Aren’t they beautiful? They belong to my NEW dining room set (which hasn’t arrived yet). I don’t know if you can tell from the picture but they are pub style, nice and tall (which is great for a tall girl like me). It reminds me of sitting in my favourite pub except that it will be in the comfort of my own home.Only 33 days until my condo closes and then I will actually be able to use them. Currently, they sit next to my closet in my makeshift bedroom where my Ugly Doll, Babo, resides.

Oh, the one with no seat? Yeah, I got a ridiculous discount on it. We are talking I paid $10 for a chair that would have cost me over $200. And all that is wrong with it is that missing the seat. Something that is easily fixable for my handy self. I am actually looking forward to this little project.

The rest of the set is gorgeous and I can’t wait to show it off. I REALLY can’t wait to enjoy my first meal in my new home with my darling husband.

For now, it sits in my room, taunting me of the 33 days left until I move. arg.

I missed posting last night and I had no time to write this morning. I was stuck in traffic for 3 hours for a trip that should take a little less than 1.5 hours. A woman on the 400 south stopped dead, no one in front of her, because she wanted to change lanes but couldn’t because no one would let her in. I have a hang nail on my thumb that would heal if only I could stop picking at it. I have no place to call my own for another 34 days. I miss spending every night with my husband. My hair is frizzy today and I’m forced to tie it back. I am so angry that I feel ugly. My hands are dry. My lips are chapped. Did I mention that it took me 3 hours to get into work today? I miss my dog Spanky.

I thought venting was supposed to make you feel better. I just feel worse.