How do you tell people that you don’t want to do the gift thing this year, for Christmas?
How do you tell them that you actually would prefer not to celebrate the holidays at all this year?
How do you do it without sounding like a jerk? You tell me, which explanation makes the most sense.
a) I never really liked the gifting part of Christmas. The ONE thing I did love, spending time with my family, has been taken away from me this year (a big part of it anyway) so the gift thing really is just a pain in the ass.
b) My Dad is dead and that’s what I’ll be thinking about. Not, “Ooh, thanks for this basket of soap.”
c) I know I’ve been hiding it pretty good for the past month or so, but I’m still really fucking angry with the whole life/death thing. If I have to face a mall and the people in it, I will probably get arrested for punching someone.
d) No, this doesn’t mean that you can still give me a gift. As a matter of fact, that will just make me feel worse. Can we just spend time together?
e) If you get me a gift I will throw it out the window, walk out the door and head to the nearest bar to spend Christmas with other people who are avoiding the holiday.
Luckily for me, my mom and brother feel the same way. So, our Christmas is really just going to be another day for us to hang out. No tree, no decorations, no gifts. I know they both feel the exact same way.
How do I get this accross to the rest of the people in my life? Unfortunately, they don’t all read my blog.
